Kue Keju, Camilan 8+

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Bayi bisa belajar mengunyah melalui cookies. Camilan bisa dikenalkan mulai usia 8 bulan. Sebelum usia tersebut bayi tidak memerlukan camilan karena masih adaptasi dalam mengenal makanan.

Kue keju ini merupakan camilan pertama abangK. Alhamdulillah dia suka, bahkan orang dewasapun doyan. Kue ini sangat mudah lumer.

Resep didapatkan dari group Healthy Homemade Baby Food.

Bahan :

220 gr tepung terigu
30 gr tepung maizena
190gr keju cheddar parut
170 gr unsalted butter
2 kuning telur

Cara membuat :

Ayak tepung terigu + maizena

Campur parutan keju dan butter, uleni, masukan kuning telur, uleni sampai bahan bisa dicetak.

Cetak bahan

Bakar di oven yang telah panas sampai matang.

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Kebutuhan Bayi Baru Lahir

Kebutuhan bayi baru lahir untuk tiap orang ternyata tidak sama. Menjelang kehamilan 7 bulan saya mulai belanja dengan menggunakan daftar belanja yang saya dapatkan dari hasil googling. Tidak semua barang yang saya beli terpakai. Ada baiknya kita beli minimalnya dulu, kalau toh nanti tiba-tiba perlu tambahan kan sebetulnya mudah, tinggal beli aja. Belanja baiknya dilakukan bertahap dan tidak mepet waktu menjelang lahiran, karena semakin perut membesar, semakin kita lekas capek untuk belanja.

Kebutuhan yang harus dibeli antara lain :

  1. Baju lengan pendek 6 buah
  2. Baju lengan panjang 6 buah
  3. Celana panjang 1 lusin
  4. Kaos dalam 6 buah
  5. Baju hangat 1 buah
  6. Popok 2 lusin
  7. Kain planel untuk bedongan dan alas tidur 2 lusin
  8. Perlak 1 buah
  9. Selimut bayi 2 buah
  10. Selimut bertopi 1 buah
  11. Gendongan bayi (baby wrap)
  12. Gurita bayi 6 buah
  13. Washlap 2 buah
  14. Minyak Zaytun
  15. Sabun Mandi + Shampoo
  16. Tissue basah
  17. Kapas
  18. Baby Oil
  19. Bedak padat
  20. Topi 1 buah
  21. Kaos kaki 2 buah
  22. Sarung tangan 2 buah
  23. Handuk 2 buah
  24. Bantal bayi yang pakai cetakan kepala + guling
  25. Tas bepergian kecil untuk keperluan beberapa jam
  26. Bak mandi

Kebutuhan yang harus dibawa ke Rumah Sakit atau Klinik Bersalin adalah sebagai berikut :

  1. Baju lengan pendek 1 buah
  2. Popok 1 buah
  3. Bedongan 1 buah
  4. Selimut bertopi 1 buah
  5. Bantal + guling bayi
  6. Baju ibu untuk 4 hari, enaknya daster (jaga-jaga kalau sectio)
  7. Sarung 1 buah
  8. Baju ibu untuk dipakai ketika pulang
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Hormon Cinta

As-Salaamu 3alaykum,

Mulai saat ini, in syaa Allah saya akan posting materi berkaitan dengan kehamilan, persalinan, dan menyusui, seiring dengan hadirnya seorang bayi di keluarga kami alhamdulillah. Saya akan coba dokumentasikan perjalanan pembelajaran yang dilewati.

Hormon Oksitosin atau sering juga orang sebut sebagai Hormon Cinta mempunyai peranan penting dalam proses persalinan dan menyusui. Dalam proses persalinan, Hormon Oksitosin berperan dalam merangsang kontraksi pada dinding rahim sehingga proses persalinan (keluarnya bayi dan plasenta) menjadi lancar. Setelah persalinan, Hormon Oksitosin membantu si ibu untuk kontraksi yang akan mengembalikan ukuran rahim ke ukuran semula. Sedangkan dalam proses menyusui, Hormon Oksitosin berperan membantu mengalirkan Air Susu Ibu (ASI) dari alveoli ke saluran ASI.

Hormon Oksitosin disebut juga Hormon Cinta karena pelepasan hormon ini berkaitan erat dengan kondisi psikis yang bersangkutan. Rasa bahagia dan merasa dicintai akan memperlancar pelepasan hormon ini, sebaliknya pikiran-pikiran negatif akan menghambat proses pelepasan Hormon Oksitosin.

Pada kebanyakan proses persalinan, si ibu dipenuhi oleh rasa was-was, takut, rasa sakit dan hal-hal negatif lainnya. Hal ini akan mempersulit jalannya proses persalinan karena dukungan hormon oksitosin sulit didapat. Jika hal ini terjadi, maka biasanya dia akan dibantu oleh induksi, yaitu pemberian hormon oksitosin sintesis.

Beberapa artikel selanjutnya akan berkaitan dengan hormon ini. Informasi-informasi di atas bisa didapat dengan mudah di era internet sekarang ini. Kualitas hidup kita seharusnya akan lebih baik dengan kemudahan-kemudahan yang didapat sekarang dibandingkan leluhur-leluhur kita. Dengan ilmu, kita bisa bedakan mana mitos mana fakta.

Cintai dan sayangi ibu hamil, karena seorang ibu yang bahagia akan membuat janinnya tenang, sehat, dan bahagia juga. Cintai dan sayangi ibu menyusui, karena seorang ibu yang bahagia akan membuat bayinya tenang, bahagia, dan mendapat ASI yang cukup.

Seorang suami hendaknya selalu mendukung isterinya dalam menghadapi pertentangan-pertentangan yang mungkin akan didapat, karena adanya ilmu mungkin akan mematahkan mitos-mitos yang terlanjur melekat di masyarakat kita. Oleh karena itu, penting juga edukasi bagi seorang ayah mengenai proses kehamilan, persalinan, dan menyusui ini. Selain itu, banyak aspek-aspek pengetahuan medis yang masih dalam tahap pro-kontra. Tugas kitalah untuk mempelajari kedua sisi pendapat dan mengambil sikap antara keduanya.

Patuh ilmu itu tidak mudah, tapi layak untuk diperjuangkan. Bukankah semua orangtua pastinya ingin yang terbaik buat anaknya?

Referensi :

  1. Oksitosin
  2. Apa Itu Oksitosin ?
  3. Pentingnya Merangsang Hormon Oksitosin
  4. Anatomi Payudara Menyusui
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To Kill a Mocking Tongue

by Muhammad Alshareef

Al-Ma’roor ibn Suwayd narrates that he once saw Abu Dharr radi Allahu anhu wearing a beautiful shawl. His slave standing next to him was wearing a shawl exactly like it, warm and beautiful. Ma’roor said to Abu Dharr, “Perhaps you could take the shawl of your servant and give him another (less expensive) one.”

“Never,” said Abu Dharr, “for I once had a servant whose mother was not Arab and I cussed him and his mother. That servant went to the Messenger of Allah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam complaining of the words I had said. When RasulAllah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam saw me he commented, ‘O Abu Dharr, you are a man who still has jahiliyyah (pre-Islamic ignorance) in him.’”

Because of these painful words, Abu Dharr radi Allahu anhu would always dress his servants in the exact same garments that he would wear.

Dear brothers and sisters, Allah is disobeyed the most with our tongues. There is a sin that sweeps amongst us; a sin that many take lightly; a sin that is laughed at; a sin that could very well pull someone to Hellfire – it is the sin of insulting others.

Read carefully this following verse. It is a commandment of Allah that begins with a call to those who claim to have eman. Allah ta’ala says:

O you who believe, let not one group of people make fun of another, who (the one’s being made fun of) are perhaps better then them. And let no woman make fun of another woman who (the woman being made fun of) is perhaps better than herself. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by (offensive) nicknames. Wretched is the name (i.e. mention) of disobedience after (one’s) faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the dhaalimoon (the wrongdoers) (Al-Hujurat 49/11).

Perhaps the one that is being made fun of is more beloved to Allah. Subhan Allah! Let us remember this if we ever try to make fun of someone, perhaps Allah loves them and does not love us. Didn’t the mushrikeen make fun of RasulAllah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam, and we know Allah loved him and not them. Didn’t the munaafiqeen make fun of the Sahaabaa, and we know Allah loved the Sahaabaa and not them.

RasulAllah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said:

“Verily, a person will speak words from those that Allah hates, paying no heed to what he is saying, and with those words he will plummet in to Hellfire” (Bukhari).

There are different reasons why a person would want to insult, make fun of and ridicule other community members:

Firstly, they have weak eman and their fear of Allah is poor. This is one of the major reasons.

Secondly, they spend a lot of their time in gatherings that bring no benefit.

Thirdly, they themselves may want others to praise them. Sadly, when there is a student or a community member that insults others, often it is they that want to be the ‘cool’ one. How can they be ‘cool’ if they are doing something that Allah and His Messenger hate?

Fourthly, they forget the punishment for those that make fun of others. Imam Al-Bayhaqi narrates in Shu’ab al-Eman, that RasulAllah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said:

“Verily, those people that make fun of people – for them a gate of Jannah will be opened. It will be said to them, ‘Come (and enter).’ That person will come with all their anguish and depression, but when he gets close, the gate will be closed in his face. Then another gate (to Jannah) will be opened and it will be said, ‘Come (and enter).’ So that person will come with all his anguish and depression. But when he gets close, the gate will be closed in his face. This will keep happening to him until it will get to the point where it will be said, ‘Come (and enter),’ and he will not come from the despair of ever entering paradise.”

Fifthly, those that make fun of others may do so out of love for the kuffar and a love to imitate them. How many times do we see the comedians mocking people and everyone laughing? Indeed, mocking others and insulting them is a characteristic of jaahiliyyah and kufr, and it is never a characteristic of a believer.

Allah ta’ala shows us in Surah Al-Mutaffifeen how this characteristic of laughing at others is a characteristic of the kuffar:

Indeed, those who committed crimes used to laugh at those who believed (Al-Mutaffifin 83/29).

The seriousness of this sin varies in accordance to the subject being insulted. On the highest level of seriousness is to make fun of Allah, His aayaat, or His Messenger sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam.

A group of munafiqeen started joking one day about their Qur’raa ( i.e. the Companions of Allah’s Messenger). They described, in ridiculing terms, that they were large in stomachs, having lying tongues and being cowardly. Allah ta’ala tells us in the Qur’an:

And if you ask them, they will surely say, “We were only conversing and playing.” Say, “Is it Allah and His verses and His Messenger that you were mocking?” / Make no excuse; you have disbelieved (i.e. rejected faith) after your belief. If We pardon one faction of you – We will punish another faction because they were criminals (At-Tauba 9/65-66).

After Allah, His aayaat, or His Messenger sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, it is most serious to ridicule and make fun of the Sahaabaa. In the incident just mentioned, the comment of the munaafiqeen was actually directed at the Sahaabaa and the Qur’an shows us that this was a direct ridicule of Allah, His verses, and His Messenger.

Shaykh Al-Uthaymeen rahimahullah said, “Thus it is understood that someone who curses and ridicules the Companions is a kafir. This is because cutting at the honor of the Sahaabee is in reality an attempt at ridiculing Allah and His Messenger and His Shari’ah.

Next it is most serious to ridicule the pious believers. For example, if someone were to ridicule a pious believer because of his practice of the deen, such as ridiculing a brother’s beard or to mock a sister’s hijab, doing this – mocking a Muslim because of his Islam – may very well expel someone from the fold of Islam. Allah ta’ala says in Surah Al-Mutaffifeen:

Indeed, those that committed crimes used to laugh at those who believed (Al-Mutaffifin 83/29-30).

As reported in Tafseer At-Tabaree, the munaafiqeen were once sitting back watching the charity that the believers were giving. To those that gave much, like AbdurRahmaan ibn ‘Awf, they said, “He only gave it to show off.” For those that gave little, they said, “Verily, Allah has no need for his petty offering.” And so Allah ta’ala revealed in Surah At-Tauba:

Those who criticize the contributors among the believers concerning their charities and (criticize) the ones who find nothing (to spend) except their effort, Allah will ridicule them and they will have a painful punishment (At-Tauba 9/79).

In addition to all the specific people mentioned, it is also most serious to ridicule humans in general. This applies to the God-fearing and the fusaaq. A believer should not humiliate people and/or use derogatory nicknames for them, nor should they ridicule their creation. Allah ta’aala says:

O you who believe, let not one group of people make fun of another (Al-Hujurat 49/11).

And RasulAllah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said, “It is enough sin for a person that they would ridicule their Muslim brother”

Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood radi Allahu anhu used to say, as narrated by Ibn Abee ‘Aasim, “By Allah whom there is no God but He, there is nothing more worthy of a prolonged incarceration than one’s tongue.”

PART II

Abu Musa radi Allahu anhu said, “I asked Allah’s Messenger, ‘Who out of the Muslims is the best?’ He replied, ‘Those whom the other Muslims are safe from his tongue and hands’” (Agreed upon).

The mockingbird, native to the western hemisphere, has a very interesting name. The mockingbird gets its name from its ability to mimic the sounds of other animals. It combines song notes of it’s own with sounds from other birds, doing so in almost a mocking way. It is an endangered species, and we hope in sha Allah that the mocking it got its name after will become endangered in our communities too.

Al-Hasan Al-Basree rahimahu Allah said, “Whoever does not guard the slips of their tongue has not understood their Deen.”

Dear brothers and sisters, one of the saddest things is to see the regulars of the masjid, or the leaders of the Muslim youth, being the ones who mock others. So many youth groups and halaqas around North America are built on this notion that in order to be cool you must ridicule and mock others.

In other places, I personally know people who abandoned the local masjid because they did not want to be ridiculed by the Muslims. They felt more comfort and compassion in the character of the disbelievers. What will Allah ta’aala think of someone who does this to the Muslims, someone who is an obstacle for others to come closer to Allah? If we find a gathering of Muslims to be like this, it is our duty to command the good and forbid the evil and demand that this ridiculing stop once and for all.

In conclusion, the question that begs to be asked is: What is the cure for this disease of the tongue?

One: We should know that it is a major sin. In fact, a person may make a single statement – not paying any heed to it – by which he may slip into Hellfire.

Two: We should follow what our tongues are saying and not allow ourselves to stoop to vain talk.

Three: We should distance ourselves from those long useless gatherings where nothing is done for hours except laughing and chatting. Instead, we should replace our gatherings with the remembrance of Allah and good speech.

Four: We must glorify this deen and make enormous in our hearts the commandments of Allah ta’aala. If Allah says do not make fun of one another, our reply should be nothing more than, “We hear and we obey.”

Five: We should warn others of the sin of insulting other people and making fun of them. Let us not allow ourselves to be as a silent Shaytaan listening to others being insulted. Let us speak up and say it clearly that this is not something loved by Allah and His Messenger. Proclaim that if Allah and His Messenger hate it, then so do you.

Six: If you feel that you just have to insult someone, ask Allah to protect you from the Shaytaan and this satanic act. As Allah ta’sala says:

And if an evil suggestion comes to you from Satan, then seek refuge in Allah. Indeed, He is Hearing and Knowing (Al-A’raf 7/200).

Seven: And of course, if anyone of us should fall into this sin, we should be swift in turning back to Allah in tauba. Say astaghfir Allah wa ‘atoobo ilayh, O Allah, I ask You to forgive me and I return to You. Allah ta’ala says in the Qur’an:

And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the dhaalimoon (the wrongdoers) (Al-Hujurat 49/11).

Finally, if there is one thing that you remember from this khutbah let it be this following commandment of Allah ta’aala; memorize it and teach it to at least one other person:

O you who believe, let not one group of people make fun of another…(Al-Hujurat 49/11)

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How a Pearl Develops: A Khutbah for Muslim Women

How a Pearl Develops: A Khutbah for Muslim Women
by Muhammad Alshareef

When news of the Christian army that had prepared on the horizons to wipe out Islam reached Abu Qudaamah Ash-Shaamee, he moved quickly to the mimbar of the masjid. In a powerful and emotional speech, Abu Qudaamah ignited the desire of the community to defend their land – jihaad for the sake of Allah. As he left the masjid, walking down a dark and secluded alley, a woman stopped him and said, “As salamu alaykum wa Rahmatullaah!” Abu Qudaamah stopped and did not answer. She repeated her salam again, adding “this is not how pious people should act.” She stepped forward from the shadows. “I heard you in the masjid encouraging the believers to go for jihaad and all I have is this…” She handed him two long braids. “It can be used for a horse rein. Perhaps Allah may write me as one of those who went for jihaad.”

The next day as that Muslim village set out to confront the crusader army, a young boy ran through the gathering and stood at the hooves of Abu Qudaamah’s horse. “I ask you by Allah to allow me to join the army.”

Some of the elder fighters laughed at the boy. “The horses will trample you,” they said.

But Abu Qudaamah looked down into his eyes as he asked again, “I ask you by Allah, let me join.”

Abu Qudaamah then said, “On one condition; if you are killed you will take me with you to Jannah amongst those you will be allowed to intercede for.”

That young boy smiled. “It’s a promise.”

When the two armies met and the fighting intensified, the young boy on the back of Abu Qudaamah’s horse asked, “I ask you by Allah to give me 3 arrows.”

“You’ll lose them,” said Abu Qudaamah.

The boy repeated, “I ask you by Allah to give me them.”

Abu Qudaamah gave him the arrows and the boy took aim. “Bismillah!” The arrow flew and killed a Roman. “Bismillah!” The second arrow flew, killing a second Roman. “Bismillah!” The third arrow flew, killing a third Roman. An arrow then struck the boy in the chest, knocking him off the horse. Abu Qudaamah jumped down to his side, reminding the boy in his final breaths, “Don’t forget the promise!”

The boy reached into his pocket, extracted a pouch and said, “Please return this to my mother.”

“Who’s your mother?” asked Abu Qudaamah.

“The women that gave you the braids yesterday.”

Think about this Muslimah. How did she reach this level of taqwa where she would sacrifice her hair and her son? Indeed, she spent her life in the obedience of Allah, and when exam time came, she passed. Not only did she pass herself, but her children shone with that same beauty of eman; children that she herself raised.

Most often the lectures, khutbahs, and talks are all directed to the Muslim men. We forget that from the hady (guidance and way) of RasulAllah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam was that he would allocate a specific day of the week to teach the women. Women would come up to him in Hajj, in the street, and even in his home to ask him questions about the deen. At the Eid salah, after addressing the men, he would take Bilal and go to the women’s section and address the women. Allah revealed an entire surah by the name of An-Nisaa’ (The Women), another by the name of Maryam (Mary), and yet another by the name of Al-Mujaadalah (The Woman Who Pleads). It is in enlivening this Sunnah that today this speech shall be addressed to the believing women – al-mu’minaat.

Dear sister, dear mother, and dear daughter, everyone is looking for happiness and fun, and I am sure that you are not excluded. Where is that happiness and fun though? And where and when do you want that happiness? Do you want to have ‘fun’ in this life at the expense of the hereafter? Or is it in the hereafter, when you meet Allah, that you want to be happy?

Everywhere you go you shall find a swarm of people, media, and culture swearing to you that happiness is the happiness of the dunya. Is it really happiness though? On the Day of Repayment, Allah shall take the most ‘happiest’ kafir of the dunya and dip him in Jahannam (Hellfire). Then He shall ask him, “Have you ever seen any happiness?” The Kafir will say, “Never!”

Nay, the happiness is only the happiness of the hereafter no matter what happens in this dunya. Allah shall bring on the Day of Repayment the most tested human and dip him in Jannah (Paradise). He shall then ask him, “Have you ever seen sadness?” And that person shall say, “Never!”

And don’t think that this happiness and fun is exclusive to the Hereafter. It is very much tied to this life as well. Listen and understand the words of Allah:

Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, while he [or she] is a true believer, verily to him We will give a good life [in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision], and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do [i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter] (An-Nahl 16/97).

Dear sister, you have to understand that you or anyone may enter Hellfire. By Allah, we are not better than Fatimah, the daughter of Rasul Allah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam. And he said to her, “O Fatimah, the daughter of Muhammad, ssk me whatever you wish from my wealth, for I shall avail you nothing to Allah.” Meaning that it doesn’t matter if you’re my daughter; if you don’t work for Jannah, saying to Allah that my father is so and so will not help you in any way.

Islam is filled with many mu’minahs who completed their taqwa of Allah. When the other girls put up posters of kafir singers, athletes and actresses, you should put up posters in your heart of Fatimah and many other mu’minahs.

One of these women was Aasiyah, the wife of Fir’own. Her eman in Allah thrived under the shadow of someone who said, “I am your Lord, Most High!” When news reached Fir’own of his wife’s eman, he beat her and commanded his guards to beat her. They took her out in the scalding noon heat, tied her hands and feet, and beat her perpetually. Who did she turn to? She turned to Allah! She prayed, “My Lord, build for me a home with you in Paradise, save me from Fir’own and his deeds, and save me from the transgressive people.”

It was narrated that when she said this, the sky opened for her and she saw her home in Paradise. She smiled. The guards watched astonished – she’s being tortured and she smiles? Frustrated, Fir’own commanded a boulder to be brought and dropped on Aasiyah to crush her to death. But Allah took her soul before the boulder was brought and she became an example for all the believing men and women till the end of time:

And Allah has set forth an example for those who believe: the wife of Fir’own [Pharaoh] when she said, “My Lord, Build for me a home with You in Paradise, and save me from Fir’own and his deeds, and save me from the transgressive [disbelieving people] (At-Tahreem 66/11).

When we talk about jihaad and shuhadaa’ (martyrs), do you know who the first Muslim in Islam to be killed in the path of Allah was? It was Summayah, the mother of Ammar. When Abu Jahl heard of her, her husband Yaasir, and her son Ammar’s Islam, he whipped them all and beat them, so much so, that RasulAllah would pass by them as they went through this test of their eman and would say to them, “Be patient, O Jannah!”

One day, as Abu Jahl beat Sumayyah, she refused to recant her deen; something that enraged Abu Jahl. He took a spear as she lay on the burning sand looking up to the sky, and he speared through her midsection. She was the first of her family and the entire ummah to meet Allah as a martyr.

Dear sister, our role models come from the Qur’an. You may have heard the story of the boy and the king. When the entire village became Muslim by the death of that young boy, the king ordered that an enormous fire be kindled and all those who would not recant their religion be burned alive. A mu’minah, stood with her baby over the fire. She looked at her baby, and seeking her child’s weakness and innocence, she considered turning her back. The baby said to her, “What are you waiting for mother. Go forward, for you are on the truth!” She nodded. Then, with her baby in hand, she was pushed to her death.

And they ill-treated them for no other reason than that they believed in Allah, exalted in power, worthy of all praise! / Him to Whom belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth! And Allah is witness to all things (Al-Buruj 85/8-9).

And dear sister, your role models can also come to you from today. As her son tells us, a senior woman in a Muslim land decided that all the vanity that normally happens in the gatherings of women was not for her. She turned to salah and praying at night, and in her old age, she found herself calling to her son one night from her prayer room. He son says, “I came in and she was in sajdah saying that she was paralyzed!” Her son took her to the doctors and she began a cycle of rehabilitation, but there was little hope. She then commanded her son to take her back home, back to her prayer room, back to that sajdah. As she prayed to Allah in her sajdah, the night came and she again called to her son. “Astawdi’ukallaah alladhee laa yadee’u wa daa’i’uh,” which means, “I leave you in the trust of Allah, and whenever something is left in Allah’s trust it is never lost.” She passed away in her sajdah. Her muscles froze in that position and so they had to wash her body as she was in sajdah. They prayed janazah for her as her body was in sajdah. They carried her to the graveyard as her body was in sajdah. They buried her as she was in sajdah. The Prophet sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said that we shall all be resurrected on what we died on; she shall be resurrected on the day of Judgment in sajdah to Allah – jalla jalaaluhu wa taqaddasat asmaa’uhu – because that it how she lived and died.

There are many other stories that we know about of powerful believing mothers, wives and sisters, and many that Allah only knows about. Whenever a halaqah is going on, the Muslim women outnumber the men. Go to an Islamic teachers or schools conference, attend a lecture and you shall see the mismatch of sisters to brothers. Sometimes it is sad to see all these brothers lacking the motivation that many muslimahs have. But if there is a beautiful sign in all this, it is that, in sha Allah ta’aala, those sisters are going to raise an army of believing men and women in the coming generation, wAllahu Akbar!

When Imam Ahmad was still young, his father died. He would tell his students of the work his mother went through in raising him, and he would pray for her. In the cold Baghdad nights, she would wake long before him to warm the water so that her son Ahmad could make wudu for Fajr. Then she would wrap him in blankets, she herself cloaked in her jilbaab. She would guide him through the dark, cold alleys to reach the main masjid long before Fajr so that her son could get a good seat in class. Her son Ahmad, at that age in grade 2 or 3, would sit all day long studying Qur’an and Sunnah, and she would wait for him to finish so that she could drop him home safely. At the age of 16, she prepared money and food for him and told him, “Travel for your search of knowledge.” He left for Makkah and Madinah and many other places, and met many great scholars. She raised Ahmad to become one of the four greatest imams in Islam.

PART II

Dear sister, after all this, ask a non-Muslim what it is that he wants from you. Does he want you to be liberated? Liberated from what? From Allah and his Messenger? From the Qur’an and the Sunnah? From Jannah? From this deen that Allah chose for you?

And what is he going to give you in return? Happiness? By Allah, he does not own any happiness to give. Is he going to give you love and protection from punishment in the grave and from the gatekeepers of Hellfire and from death? Why is it that they want to liberate young beautiful women? Why don’t they liberate the seniors? Why don’t they liberate the indigenous? Why don’t they liberate the inmates? Why is their target audience a young, skinny and tall woman (their definition of beauty) between the ages of 13 – 28? And why is their first call for you to take off your hijab?

Remember that friend – if you consider him so – carefully, for without any doubt, by Allah, he shall be your bitterest enemy on the Day of Repayment.

Friends on that day will be foes, one to another – except the Righteous (Al-Zukhruf 43/67).

One kafirah summed up exactly what they think of women, “It’s not who you are, it’s what you wear and what you look like!” And listen to Fabian, a French ‘model,’ as she spit on the fashion industry. “Fashion houses made me into a mannequin, a wooden idol. The mission: to manipulate hearts and alter minds. I learned how to be worthless, nothing on the inside, but cold. We lived in a world of filth.”

When the Prophet sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam stood on the plain of Arafah and gave his farewell speech, he said to the ummah, “Treat the women kindly!” History records that in Europe, in the same year, at the same time that Islam was saying this, the Christian clergy were arguing whether a woman was a human or an animal! Those clergymen are the ancestors of the kuffar that now want to ‘liberate’ you.

There is much more than can be said. I shall conclude with the advice of RasulAllah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam to every Muslim mother, daughter, and wife:

“If the woman prays her five (salah), fasts her month (of Ramadan), protects herself (from committing zina), and listens to her husband, it will be said to her, that from any door you wish, enter Paradise!”

O ye who believe! Give your response to Allah and His Messenger, when He calls you to that which shall give you life; and know that Allah cometh between a man and his heart, and that it is He to Whom ye shall [all] be gathered (Al-Anfal 8/24).

Allah and His Messenger are calling you to life. Dear sister, reply!

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HOS Cokro Aminoto, Mercusuar Syareat Islam di Indonesia

Sumber : HOS Cokro Aminoto, Mercusuar Syareat Islam di Indonesia

“Tjokroaminoto mempunyai keyakinan yang teguh, bahwa Negara dan bangsa kita tak akan mentjapai kehidupan jang adil dan makmur, pergaulan hidup jang aman dan tenteram, selama keadilan sosial sepandjang adjaran-adjaran Islam belum dapat berlaku atau dilakukan mendjadi hukum dalam Negara kita, sekalipun sudah merdeka.

Terbukti sekarang, sekalipun Negara dan bangsa kita sudah merdeka dan berdaulat
bernaung dibawah pandji-pandji sang merah putih, namun rakjat jelata jang berpuluh-puluh jumlahnja belum merasakan kenikmatan dan kelezatan hidup dan kehidupan sehari-harinja. Rakyat masih tetap menderita matjam – matjam kesukaran dan kemelaratan. Kekatjauan timbul dimana-mana. Perampokan, penggedoran, Pentjulikan dan pembunuhan seolah-ilah tak dapat diatasi oleh pihak (alat) pemerintahan.

Dikota-kota besar nampak pula kerusakan moral (budi pekerti) bangsa kita. Bukan
sadja pelajturan jang meradjalela dari kota-kota sampai desa-desa, tetapi pihak
jang dikatakan kaum terpeladjar, pemuda dan pemudi tak ada batas lagi pergaulan
hidupnja, pergaulan jang merdeka. Pergaulan jang mempengaruhi alam pikiran pada kesesatan. Sumber-sumber pelatjuran telah menjadi pergaulan hidup yang modern. Kemadjuan jang mentjontoh dunia barat jang memang sudah rusak. Rusak budi- pekertinja dan rochaninja. Tak ada kendali didalam djiwa jang dapat menahan hawa nafsunja. Inilah semuanja yang oleh ketua Tjokroaminoto dikatakan Djahiliah modern.

Kalau alat-alat pemerintah RI jang memegang tampuk kekuasaan pemerintahan, baik pihak atasan maupun sampai bawahan sudah tidak takut lagi kepada hukuman Allah, jakinlah Negara akan rusak dan hantjur dengan sendirinja, sebab segala perbuatan djahat, korupsi, penipuan, suapan dan sebagainja jang terang terang merugikan Negara, dikerjakan dengan aman oleh mereka itu sendiri, rakjat mengerti sebab rakjat jang menjadi korban” (Petikan kata Wondoamiseno, Sekjen PSSI 1950)

Sang raja tanpa mahkota begitulah kaum Kompeni Belanda menyebutnya, lihai cerdas, dan bersemangat. Di takuti dan juga disegani lawan – lawan politiknya. Perjuangnya dalam membela hak kaum pribumi saat itu benar – benar menempatkan dirinya menjadi seoarang tokoh yang benar-benar dihormati pada saat itu. HOS Cokroaminoto lahir di desa Bakur, Madiun Jawa Timur 16 Agustus 1883. Ia anak kedua dari dua belas bersaudara putra dari Raden Mas Cokro Amiseno, seorang Wedana Kleco dan cucu RT Adipati Negoro bupati Ponorogo. Terlahir dari keluarga bangsawan tak membuatnya bersikap angkuh, justru karena itulah ia akhirnya menjadi sebuah motor penggerak kemerdekaan bagi Indonesia disaat semua manusia tertidur dalam belaian kompeni Belanda. Dialah tokoh politik yang berhasil menggabungkan retorika politik melawan penjajah Belanda dengan ideology Islam, sehingga mengenyahkan penjajah dari bumi Nusantara.

Setelah menamatkan study di Oplayding School Foor Inladishe Ambegtenaren (OSVIA), sekolah pegawai pemerintahan pribumi Magelang. Setelah itu ia mengikuti jejak kepriayian ayahnya sebagai pegawai pangreh praja walaupun akhirnya ia tinggalkan karena muak dengan kebiasaan sembah jongkok yang baginya sangat melecehkan.

Tahun 1905 Cokro pindah ke Surabaya dan bekerja pada perusahaan dagang, di samping ia juga belajar di sekolah malam Hogore Burger School. Bersama istrinya,
Suharsikin ia mendirikan rumah kost di rumahnya. yang nantinya melalui rumah
inilah Cokro menyalurkan ilmunya dalam agama, politik dan berorasi yang akhirnya
menjadi cikal bakal pembentukan tokoh – tokoh penting di Indonesia. Seperti
Soekarno yang Nasionalis, SM kartosuwirjo yang Islamis Dan Muso-Alimin yang
Komunis. R. A. Suharsikin adalah cermin wanita yang selalu memberikan bantuan
moril, selalu menjadi kebiasaannya, jika suaminya bepergian untuk kepentingan
perjuangannya, istri yang sederhana dan prihatin ini mengiringi suaminya dengan
sholat tahajud, dengan puasa, dan do’a. perbedaan idiologi dari murid – muridnya
tersebut secara tidak langsung memberikan warna sendiri bagaimana secara aktif
ide-ide, ilmu dan gagasan Cokro menghujam kedada mereka. Walaupun dengan pemahaman yang beraneka ragam sesuai dengan latar belakang, pendidikan dan pekerjaanya masing masing. Jadi, pertarungan Soekarno, Kartosuwirjo dan Muso-alimin sejatinya adalah pertarungan tiga murid dari seorang guru Cokroaminoto. Hal ini mengisaratkan bahwa adanya perbedaan tafsir para murid terhadap guru dan kernudian mendorong kecenderungan yang berbeda pula.

Dalam beberapa hal, ide Islam Cokro lebih dipahami oleh Kartosuwirjo dengan Darul Islamnya, ia melanjutkan perjuangan yang telah dirintis oleh Cokro yakni menuntut Indonesia bersyariat. Dengan dasar itu ia akhirnya memproklamirkan Negara Islam Indonesia pada 7 Agustus 1949 di Jawa Barat, sebagai reaksi atas penghianatan Soekarno-Hatta terhadap piagam Jakarta.

Untuk merealisasikan perjuangan menuntut Indonesia bersyareat ia masuk ke dalam Sarekat Dagang Islam (SDI) yang saat itu dipimpin oleh H.Samanhudi di Solo, sebuah pergerakan pertama Indonesia yang menggelorakan semangat kemerdekaan. Bukan Budi Utomo seperti yang diketahui saat ini, karena SDI lahir lebih muda yakni lahir pada tahun 1908 sedangkan SDI 1905 pendistorsian sejarah semacam ini jelas kejahatan yang dilakukan oleh musuh – musuh Islam untuk mengkaburkan perjuangan Indonesia bersyariat. Karena memang tujuan SDI adalah kemerdekaan dan pemberlakuan syareat Islam. Semenjak masuknya ia kedalam SDI, SDI berubah menjadi sebuah organisasi yang besar dan menakutkan bagi kolonial. Kemahirannya serta kepiawaiannya berpolitik dalam menyuarakan kemerdekaan Indonesia dan memihak kepentingan rakyat membuat SDI begitu di gandrungi Rakyat pribumi. Terlebih setelah SDI berubah menjadi SI dan ia menjadi pemimpin SI. Lewat Cokro tujuan SI mulai di perjelas yakni kemerdekaan Indonesia dan pemberlakuan Syareat Islam bagi segenap lapisan rakyat.

Karena aktifitas politiknya Belanda akhirnya menangkap Cokro pada tahun 1921
karena dikhawatirkan akan membangkitkan semangat perjuangan rakyat pribumi
walaupun akhirnya dibebaskan pada tahun 1922, sebuah cobaan yang lazim diterima para penegak syariat islam di seluruh dunia. Pada tanggal 14-24 juni 1916
diadakanlah kongres Nasional pertama di Bandung. Di dalam kongres tersebut Cokro mengupas tentang pembentukan bangsa dan pemerintahan sendiri. Sebuah langkah yang sangat berani saat itu karena bagi rakyat pribumi kemerdekaan adalah hal yang tabu untuk disampaikan. Suatu langkah politik yang benar-benar berani. Cokro membangun opini rakyat yang belum mengerti politik untuk berpihak terhadap perjuanganya. Yaitu menuntut Indonesia merdeka dan bersyariat Islam.
Di tengah pemerintah kolonial yang masih kuat apalagi saat itu Belanda masih
menerapkan peraturan Reegerings Reglement(RR) sebuah peraturan yang berisi
larangan berpolitik, berkumpul untuk membahas perjuangan kemerdekaan. Yang
otomatis Cokro saat itu harus berhadapan dengan dua lawan yaitu Belanda dan
Pangreh Praja yang menjadi kaki tangan Belanda. Pada tahun 1924, Cokro mulai aktif dalam komite –komite pembahasan kekhilafahan yang dicetuskan pemimpin politik Wahabiah Arab, Ibnu Saud. Sebuah langkah untuk memperkuat barisan menuju kemerdekaan dan kekhalifahan dunia.

Bagi Cokro, Islam adalah sesuatu yang harus di perjuangkan dan di persatukan,
sebagai dasar kebangsaan yang hendak di proses menuju Indonesia. Tipikal Cokro,
identik dengan AI-Afghani yang juga merupakan tokoh politik Pan-Islamisme
(kebangkitan Islam). Cokro dan Afghoni juga sama-sama mengalami kegagalan dalam perjuangan Pan-Islamismenya. Namun, arti penting keduanya bukan pada kemenangan atau kekalahan. Keduanya menjadi penting karena menggulirkan momentum perubahan pemikiran dalam Islam. Keduanya juga menjadi ruh perjuangan bagi kepentingan politik Islam.

Ruh Cokro akan masih terus bergerak menjadi spirit perjuangan ketika islam di
artikulasikan sebagai penggerak yang aktif, tidak statis. Yang mengatakan ,”
Setinggitinggi ilmu, semurni-murni tauhid , sepintar-pintar siasat”. Beliau wafat
pada tanggal 17 Desember 1934 di Yogyakarta, dan dimakamkan di TMP Pekuncen,
Yogyakarta. (Saif). (disarikan dari “H.O.S TJOKROAMINOTO, Hidup dan Perdjuangannja, karya Amelz, Bulan Bintang)
Sumber : al-ikhwah Edisi 3 Tahun I ~ Maret 2009 M / Rabiul Awwal 1430 H
NB: Mengenai Ibnu Saud, ada beberapa pendapat; yang paling santer adalah ia
menghianati, bughat (memberontak) dari kekhalifahan terakhir dengan dibantu “Si
Lawrence of Arabia”. Pendapat kedua, Ibnu Saud memberontak karena menganggap khalifah terakhir tidak konsisten dengan Dienul Islam. Insyaallah kita bahas lagi topik ini di lain kesempatan.

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Sepuluh Kriteria Manusia Terbaik

Sepuluh kriteria yang menyebabkan seseorang dikategorikan sebagai manusia terbaik, diantaranya adalah :

1. Para Shahabat yang Mulia

Dari Abdullah, dari Nabi Shalallahu ‘Alaihi Wasalam : “Sebaik-baik manusia adalah generasiku (Para Shahabat), kemudian Generasi sesudah mereka (Tabi’in), kemudian generasi sesudah mereka (tabi’ut Tabi’in).” (H.R Bukhori Muslim)

2. Yang Paling Taqwa dan Suka Menyambung Tali Silaturrahim

“Manusia terbaik adalah yang paling banyak bacaan dan ilmu Qur’annya, paling bertaqwa dan paling suka beramar ma’ruf nahi munkar serta paling rajin menyambung silaturahim.” (HR. Ahmad)

3. Pelajar dan Pengajar Al-Qur’an

Dari Utsman, dari Nabi Shalallahu ‘Alaihi Wasalam Bersabda :
“Sebaik-baik orang diantara kalian adalah yang mempelajari Al-Qur’an dan mengajarkanya.” (HR. BUkhari wa Muslim)

4. Mujahid

“Sesungguhnya termasuk salah satu manusia terbaik adalah seorang lelaki yang beramal (berjuang) fii sabilillah di atas kudanya, atau untanya atau kedua kakinya sampai maut menjemputnya.” (HR. An Nasa’i)

5. Yang Panjang Umurnya lagi Baik Amalnya.

“Maukah kalian aku beritahu tentang orang yang terbaik di antara kalian?” para sahabat menjawab, “Ya, wahai Rasulullah.” Kata beliau, “Sebaik-baik kalian adalah yang paling panjang umurnya dan paling baik amalnya.” (HR. Tirmidzi)

6. Yang Kebaikannya Selalu Diharapkan

“Sebaik-baik orang diantara kalian adalah yang kebaikannya selalu diharapkan dan orang merasa aman dari keburukannya, sedang seburuk-buruk orang diantara kalian adalah yang kebaikannya tidak pernah diharapkan, dan orang-orang tidak merasa aman dari keburukannya.” (HR. at-Tirmidzi dan Ahmad, Shahih (Al-Albani))

7. Pemilik Akhlak Mulia

Rasulullah Shalallahu ‘Alaihi Wasalam tidak pernah berkata kotor dan berkata jorok agar ditertawai orang-orang. Beliau bersabda : “Sebaik-baik kalian adalah yang terbaik akhlaknya.” (HR. Bukhari Muslim)

8. Yang Terbaik Terhadap Keluarga

“Sebaik-baik kalian adalah yang paling baik terhadap keluarganya. dan aku adalah yang terbaik terhadap keluargaku….” (HR. Tirmidzi)

9. Yang Uzlah Menghindari Fitnah

“Sebaik-baik manusia saat terjadi fitnah adalah yang mengisolir diri dengan hartanya, beribadah kepada Rabbnya dan menunaikan Kewajibannya.” (HR. at-Tirmidzi)

10. Pemberi Makan

“Sebaik-baik kalian adalah yang memberi makanan atau orang-orang yang memberi makan.” (HR.Ahmad)

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Wanita Shalihah

Rasulullah SAW bersabda: “Jika seorang istri itu telah menunaikan shalat lima waktu, berpuasa di bulan ramadhan, dan menjaga kemaluannya dari mengerjakan perbuatan haram dan dia taat kepada suaminya, maka akan dipersilahkan ia masuk ke Syurga dari pintu manapun yang ia kehendaki” (H.R Ahmad dan Thabrani)

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Bara Api

Dari Anas bin Malik r.a., dia berkata: Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda: “Akan datang kepada manusia suatu masa, di mana orang yang berpegang teguh dengan agamanya ibaratnya seperti orang yang memegang bara api”. (H.R. At-Tirmidzi).

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Catatan Tape Pengajian Ustadz Abdullah Sungkar (File 1)

As-salaamu 3alaykum,

Bahasan utama kajian ini meninjau isi dari ayat-ayat al-Quran sebagai berikut:

      Q.S. Az-Zumar Ayat 64-66 :

64. Katakanlah:”Maka apakah kamu menyuruh aku menyembah selain Allah, hai orang-orang yang tidak berpengetahuan?”

65. Dan sesungguhnya telah diwahyukan kepadamu dan kepada (nabi-nabi) sebelummu:”Jika kamu mempersekutukan (Allah), niscaya akan hapus amalmu dan tentulah kamu termasuk orang-orang yang merugi.

66. Karena itu, maka hendaklah Allah saja kamu sembah dan hendaklah kamu termasuk orang-orang yang bersyukur”.

      Q.S. Al-Fussilat Ayat 30

30. Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang mengatakan:”Tuhan kami ialah Allah” kemudian mereka meneguhkan pendirian mereka, maka malaikat akan turun kepada mereka (dengan mengatakan):”Janganlah kamu merasa takut dan janganlah kamu merasa sedih; dan bergembiralah kamu dengan (memperoleh) surga yang telah dijanjikan Allah kepadamu”

Poin-poin kajian :

    Pengertian “ibadah” bukanlah “menyembah” (kesalahan penerjemahan al-Quran ke dalam bahasa Indonesia). Pengertian Ibadah adalah taat dan tunduk terhadap hukum-hukum Allah.
    Berislam, tetapi menjadikan orang kafir sebagai pemimpin atau pelindung akan menjadikan dirinya sebagai orang munafik.
    Pemimpin yang wajib dita’ati adalah pemimpin yang memahami syariat islam dan mengamalkan.
    Kekuatan atau kemuliaan bagi orang beriman adanya di sisi Allah SWT.
    Dimana posisi al-Qur’an dalam kehidupan kita?
    Pada umumnya, pada saat ini, manusia dijangkiti oleh penyakit kecongkakan atas ilmu pengetahuan.
    Pentingnya memahami al-Qur`an dalam bahasa aslinya (arab) sehingga risalah bisa dapat dipahami dengan baik untuk mendapatkan kemuliaan di sisi Allah.
    Kemusyrikan dapat menggugurkan semua amalan.
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